In this life, we are exposed to various emotions and more often than not, these very emotions begin to get trapped inside of us, weighing us down. And yet, we hold onto them. Not because we want to — because we don’t know what to do with them. And so they begin to rot. And fester. And we are still the ones paying the consequences for it. Doesn’t sound very fair, does it?
Anger is immediate. It boils and spills over, and you’re done. But resentment? It simmers and slowly begins to sear every new memory we make. But the fact is, this is the card that we are dealt with and it is up to us to choose how we can move forward.
We can walk up to the person who wronged us and let them know how we feel, or we will forever be waiting for an apology from someone who doesn’t even know they made a mistake. And if that doesn’t work out, try to remind yourself that while your anger is valid and justified, the only person you are punishing is…you. And you don’t deserve that.
No, you are not holding onto a grudge. But what you are holding onto is pain. Pain that someone, something, has caused you and while this can never be fixed, you hold the power to free yourself of the bitterness and carry on with your life. Resentment and built-up anger can easily bleed into other aspects of your life, and when it does, chances are that someone else (who is innocent, just like you) will end up paying for it just the way you did and the cycle continues endlessly.
You cannot heal if you don’t know what is broken, so take some time to meditate on the roots of your pain. Seek a mental health professional and let them help you. There is a lot more to life than mourning what was taken away.
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