Each and every one of us is built differently, and in the same way, we are also built to perceive things differently from one another.
This is called “love language” — it is how we seek love from others, and how we show our love in return.
1. Words of Affirmation
Some of us associate words of affirmation with confirmation and the declaration of love. And no, you don’t have to be a poet to be able to speak this language!
Just a simple few words like, “You look gorgeous tonight” or “I really like this gift you got me” is enough for your partner to feel seen, heard, and most of all, loved.
2. Acts of Service
For some people, “actions speak louder than words” is more ingrained in their DNA.
They express themselves by doing things that would make the lives of their loved ones a whole lot easier and convenient. In short, they care and they show it in spades.
It can be anything from picking up your partner’s laundry from the dry cleaners or welcoming them home to a delicious, home-cooked meal.
3. Gifts
Gifts are a lovely way of saying, “I saw this and I thought of you.” This shows that out of sight does not mean out of mind, and also an intimate gesture of how well you know your person to be able to pick out a gift that speaks to them.
And get this: the best gifts don’t even have to cost a thing. A hand-crafted present like a photo collage of all the places you have travelled together is worth more than a golden necklace.
4. Quality Time
Time is gold, and what is a better way to show your loved ones just how much you appreciate them than to spend time with them?
Having another person’s undivided attention away from other distractions in life is as romantic as it can get. In this pandemic, spending quality time together might be tricky — if you are not physically able to be together, you can opt for a video call (which is as good as it gets, but not enough).
5. Physical Touch
Sometimes, words are not needed.
An absent-minded stroke across the knuckles while watching TV or ‘playing footsie’ under the table during dinner is undoubtedly some of the most romantic, intimate gestures. It shows that even while the two of you are in your separate headspaces and doing different things, you are aware of each others’ presence in your subconscious mind.
A love like that transcends the need for words.
Does any of this resonate with you and your partner? Because more often than not, just saying “I love you” is not enough.
*Cover image via Instagram @mariamedem
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